I found this yesterday and it resonated with me not just for my personal life but also in my yoga practice. I started to think about the times I looked for the approval of others to feel I have finally done something. I remembered the times I caught myself wondering how many more years do I need to practice before I get to do handstand in the middle of the room. Would that really make me a better teacher or even a better yoga practitioner?
The more I thought about it the more I realized that often times we are the ones that need to accept ourselves to begin with. If we are constantly judging ourselves based on external things how can we really see our self worth? Worst yet if we don’t accept ourselves, how can we expect others to do it?
Acceptance does not mean to settle, to give up or look for external approval. Self acceptance is about loving and being happy with yourself right now, at this moment.
How can we begin to travel the path of self- acceptance? Here are some suggestions that may be helpful to you.
- Cultivate Self-Compassion.
- Let go of guilt.
-Learn to forgive yourself.
- Start journaling and write your thoughts about yourself. Identify what your strengths are, what physical characteristics you like, your personality traits, your gifts and talents.
- Identify the aspects of yourself that you accept the least. Notice what comes up? Is this a reflection of what you think is acceptable or not in the eyes of others? If you see these characteristics in others what would you do? Would you be as harsh on them as you are on yourself? Can you allow yourself to feel like what would it be to accept yourself even if others don’t?
- Begin to think what would it take for you to accept not just parts of yourself but the whole YOU. Bring love and compassion to those parts that you think are less appealing. See yourself as a younger version or even a child like version of the younger you. What would you say to this child?
- Read inspirational quotes that remind you of what you are working on.
“Acceptance allows change. The ‘acceptance mode’ includes everything, even my judgments. It allows me to be okay now, even before I reach my goals.”
“When you begin to accept yourself the way you are right now, you begin a new life with new possibilities that did not exist before……”
Once you begin to love and be happy with who you are at this moment. When you see all the great strengths and talents you possess and you let go of guilt, Self acceptance will begin to flourish and soon enough you will attract the people in your life that ACCEPT YOU completely for who you are.